Chapter 15 How to Outwit the Six Ghosts of Fear
HOW TO OUTWIT THE SIX GHOSTS OF FEAR
Quote: “Fears are educated into us, and can, if we wish, be educated out”. Karl Augustus Menninger
I believe this quote really sums up how dreams are born in our early years of life and our ability to overcome them. I look back to my childhood days, learning to sit-up, crawl and finally walk. All challenges but overcome by perseverance and determination, fear was not present initially and I achieved all of these without criticism or chiding that I might hurt myself. These were the World War II years in England and grownups were otherwise engaged and spent limited time with a child. Yes I sustained the occasional cut and quite a few bruises but I learnt how to avoid these in subsequent attempts.
We did not see danger in what we were doing, fear was born because of punishments and admonishments we received because our actions not only produced cuts and bruises but torn clothing which was in short supply. No explanation was given as to the dangers we were putting ourselves in by playing on bomb sites and climbing trees. We were also taught not to speak to strangers, perhaps a wise piece of advice, but not backed up by sound reasoning. This left with me with a fear of talking to people one on one. It is only in later years that I have overcome this and really since joining Mentoring for Free. Talking up in the safe environment of the calls has made this easier and now I can generally talk to most people. The colours’ training has also helped me to modify how I talk to people.
Throughout my life I have experienced all of the Six Ghosts of Fear, either together or singularly but I had learnt early in life that Ghosts are not real and that to overcome them, you challenge them and they disappear. I had a scare when I was climbing a tree, a very tall tree, I was high up and placed a foot on a higher limb, which was dead, as I placed my weight on it, it broke and fell away to the ground. I learnt the first law of climbing to maintain three point of contact and don’t transfer contact until you are sure of the new point. Thus I have never had a fear of climbing or heights.
I still encounter fears but as the quote above says “we can, if we wish, educate ourselves out of Fear”. Accepting the challenged a Fear brings and taking the necessary action to overcome it so that it disappears. It may reappear but we already have the answer and the necessary action so it does pose such a great challenge next time.
Thank you, thank you, thank you Linda and Michael Dlouhy for accepting the challenge to bring Mentoring For Free into exist against great criticism from renowned Business Coaches. Thank you to all the mentors and contributors who form the Master Mind we call “Think and Grow Rich Lessons”. Gratitude for all I learn each week.
Casey, Australian Capital Territory, Australia.
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